This is for anyone who feels their kindness is mistaken for weakness or stupidity…..
Growing up I was told that “you are nobody special”, “you are no better than anyone else” and more importantly, “treat others how you would like to be treated” -thanks mother.
As much as the woman who spoke those words, and I, no longer have a relationship, her words still ring loud in my mind. You see, despite everything that has happened between her and I; I believe those words are some what, if not totally, true!
I am not special. I am not “better” than anyone else. It’s taken me a while, but I now also know, that I am NOT less than anyone else either. We are all equal, and we should all try daily, to treat others in a manner that we would like to be treated.
Each of us have the ability and the choice to live, and be, the best version of ourselves; unfortunately not everyone shares my views.
I believe that
- we are all special to “someone”
- we are all deserving of equality and a good life
- we should practice kindness and be mindful to all, always
This is what I am struggling with. I feel I am an open book. What you see is what you get. I feel that I am, in general, a “glass half full” type of person. But most importantly, I am genuinely happy to lend a hand to others, or/and be a supportive friend, or just do my job to the best of my ability; now this may shock some……but, it’s for no other reason other than wanting to do something nice, and be the best version of me, that I can be! There is NO ulterior motive. There is NO “real” reason for me doing what I do. It’s NOT because I’m wanting anything in return. Shock horror!
What I’ve learned, is that me simply doing me. Me genuinely doing something for others from a place of love, clearly bothers some people. What I’ve also learnt is that, this is their problem, not mine. If simply being a good natured person, is triggering emotion within others that they are uncomfortable with, or prompts them to behave and speak about people in a negative way, then that is something they need to work on.
I certainly always try to be considerate and fair. I will always choose to be kind, and to choose love over hate. This does NOT make me weak. This does NOT make me stupid. I’m not gonna lie; it does make me angry, it does makes me sad, it prompts me to self reflect and assess, but it also makes me strong and determined.
Determination to be strong emotionally. Strong mentally. Determination to stand strong in my morals; something I will not compromise on. And most importantly, determined to be kind to myself. To put my health and wellbeing, for not only me, but also my family first and foremost, whilst holding strong in my faith. Faith in my intuition, God/Universe, when I’m searching for the strength, in knowing when to walk away….
We are all equal. We are all special. We are all capable of giving understanding, love and kindness; some unfortunately, simply choose not to.
And if you are strong enough to be a kind hearted person; please know that it certainly is not stupidity, or a weakness ❤️
It’s not our job to play judge and jury, to determine who is worthy of our kindness and who is not. We just need to be kind, unconditionally and without ulterior motive, even – or rather, especially – when we’d prefer not to be. ~Josh Radnor
Until next time, take care of you.